Congrats! We did it! 31 Days of Friendship ends today, and I have a thank you gift for YOU.
Wow! 31 Days of Friendship ends today, and I have a special announcement:
I have a thank-you gift for you.
Glittery like gold? No.
Fancy like a Porche? No again.
Useful and a money saver? YES!
While choosing your gift, I asked myself, What would a caring woman like you want most? My educated guess: a level of security, protection, and help that UN-burdens the pocketbook.
And so my gift to you — remember, gifts are free 🙂 — is the WellCard. You can read more about the WellCard here.
The WellCard is not insurance. It is a discount card accessing many thousands of health care providers, services, and products. It is useful to you whether you have great insurance, are under-insured, are on Medicare, or have no health insurance.(Psst. . .I have the WellCard and save oodles of money.)
These are some of the benefits of the WellCard.
1. PRESCRIPTION DRUG DISCOUNT BENEFIT: Save instantly up to 65% on drug prices. The WellCard has a nationwide network of over 59,000 pharmacies, including major chains and community pharmacies. Your actual savings may vary depending on the medication and the pharmacy you use.
2. FIRST ACCESS MEDICAL DISCOUNT BENEFIT: Cardholders can benefit significantly on medical services by utilizing the contracted provider networks through First Access. Over 410,000 physicians nationwide and over 45,000 ancilliaries (lab, MRI, imaging, durable medical equipment, home health care) belong to the network. There is no limit to the number of times you can save when visiting participating providers.
3. OUTLOOK VISION DISCOUNT BENEFIT: Simply present your card at a participating provider to receive your discount.
4. DENTEMAX DENTAL DISCOUNT BENEFIT: Again, present your card at a participating provider to receive your discount.
You can compare the WellCard to a coupon that you can use over and over and over. Read more about the WellCard here.
The best thing about this gift is it costs you nothing. Not even a cent. You can only save money. I am not kidding. A treat, not a trick.
If you are interested in receiving this gift, please send me a message through my website and say you want the WellCard. Whoever asks for the WellCard from me will receive it. When you send me a message, I can then give you a “Group #” that lets you sign up for it and print out your WellCard. Once you print it out, you can use it immediately. It can be used for every member in your family.
Thank you, friend, for joining me on the 31 Days of Friendship journey. I appreciate you.
Check out the favorite posts during our 31-days friendship journey!
Hi friends, tomorrow is Day 31 and I’ll have a special announcement for all of you and for your friends. It’s amazing (and does not cost a cent)! Be sure to read tomorrow’s post and find out what it is.
Let me share the readers’ top posts in 31 Days of Friendship. Have fun poking around. 😉
1. face to face or side by side? (day 3)
2. are facebook friends real friends? (day 5) FYI: This was MY personal favorite!
3. welcoming the lonely (day 11)
4. the best chocolate chip cookie EVER (day 17)
5. oh, dude: half a brain? (day 2)
6. a lonely apostle? (day 13)
7. an ingredient list for friendship (day 16)
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Sometimes friendship hurts. Usually it is amazing, but sometimes. . .you’ll need to lovingly confront a friend.
Let’s be honest.
Sometimes friendship hurts. Usually it is amazing, but sometimes. . .well, you know how it goes: as messy as making cupcakes with a dozen preschoolers.
So what can you do to to restore a friendship? Yesterday I wrote on the two basic ways to mend a friendship. Now let’s dig deeper into how to lovingly confronting a friend. Tough, yes. Impossible, no.
Here are three steps. Please share your ideas in Comments. Your ideas encourage other women like you. 🙂
1. Pray. This may sound like a no-brainer, but do not skip this step. It may make or break your friendship. Do it. Ask yourself, Why am I confronting this person? What change do I hope for? What is the best time to have this difficult conversation and where?
2. Deal with your own anger BEFORE you lovingly confront your friend. You’ve been hurt; chances are your anger shows on your face, in your tone, even in how hard to slam your kitchen cabinets or how fast you drive or . . . (add your favorite anger expression). James 1:20 reads, “Man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” So talk to God about your anger. He listens and guides you to walk in His ways.
3. Ask God for the words to share with your friend. Tell her how you feel. You might say something like “I feel hurt that you forgot our lunch plans again.” Also tell your friend what you want to happen.
You might say, “I’d love to get together for lunch again. But let’s wait until you have less on your plate. Let’s continue to talk on the phone. When you know you can make a lunch, then tell me.”
A final practical point: Some friendships cannot be mended. You’ve tried but there’s an impasse.
God can use an impasse for good. An example of an impasse comes from Acts. Paul and Barnabas have a disagreement. Barnabas was John Mark to come on a missionary journey with them. Paul refuses, remembering the time that John Mark had bailed on them. So what happened? God multiplies his missionary teams in Asia Minor and Barnabas takes John Mark with him while Paul chooses Silas.
Sometimes friendships end. If this has happened to you, remember the good things about your friend and grieve the loss of the friendship but move on. God is with you. God is with her.
With God’s power you can mend a broken friendship. Learn His two ways of restoration. He loves you. He loves your friend.
During high school my two best friends and I dubbed ourselves the three amigas. Together in school, at lunch, on the weekends, the number three might not work for many women friendships. But it worked for us.
Until senior year.
They met boys. College boys. College boys who roomed together on campus.
Three didn’t work anymore.
I felt forgotten. They didn’t mean to hurt me but I felt hurt. Should I still be their friend or kiss ’em goodbye? A tough question for a 17 year old. For any woman.
Have you been hurt by a friend and wondered how to mend a broken friendship? Yes and yes.
With God’s power you can mend a broken friendship by one of two ways. See which works for your situation or for someone you care about, like your daughters. (They learn how to mend friendships by watching us. Kinda scary but also an honor.)
1. If the wound is not horribly deep — or you feel compelled — cover an offense with love.
I was able to do this with my two best high school friends. They didn’t mean to hurt me, and I had other friends to hang with. But I still missed them and the way it used to be.
1 Peter 4:8 reads, “Love covers a multitude of sins.”
So when you can and as the Holy Spirit empowers you, let the hurt go. Let love cover the offense. Letting go can lead to restoration. After high school graduation, we three went our separate ways, as we attended different universities but we kept in contact and had no ill will.
But what it you can’t just let it go. Then what?
2. Here is the other practical step the mending a friendship and it is tough: Confront with love.
Years ago when I was a women’s ministry director at a local church, my team and I made a decision to switch the day of our morning Bible study for several good reasons. At least we thought they were good. But not Ann (not her real name).
Angry about the decision (and behind my back), she phoned each women in the bible study and complained about the day change and complained about me. She even went to the pastors and complained.
I felt hurt and sad and angry.
Eventually, Ann and I confronted one another in love. I apologized that the change took her by surprise, that I should have communicated better with everyone. She apologized for gossiping.
Our friendship was never the same, however. We hadn’t been super close but now we were tentative around each other, fearing more hurt. It was as mended as could be.
Solomon said, “Better is open rebuke than hidden love” and “Faithful are the wounds of a friend.” Proverbs 27:5,6.
I learned a lot from this mess. I continue to value Ann and see her from time to time. We say “hi” and make small talk. I confronted, forgave and moved on.
Do you have a broken friendship? Will you cover the offense with love? Or confront your friend in love? Please share and encourage others.
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You Are Blessed!
When you come to your friend Jesus and rest in him, you’ll hear God’s comforting whispers. Amazing.
Jesus says “Come.” When you come and rest in him, wonderful things happen. Your jitters flutter away. Sadness lifts. Irritability takes a hike.
Then you can hear God’s whispers. For me this passage describes it best:
The LORD said, “Go out and stand on the mountain in the presence of the LORD, for the LORD is about to pass by.”
Then a great and powerful wind tore the mountains apart and shattered the rocks before the LORD, but the LORD was not in the wind.
After the wind there was an earthquake, but the LORD was not in the earthquake.
After the earthquake came a fire, but the LORD was not in the fire.
And after the fire came a gentle whisper.” (1 Kings 19:11-13)
The prophet Elijah heard God’s whispers. You can too. God speaks words of comfort and love. They encourage, not condemn. Words like:
“You are my Beloved.”
“You are mine. Always. For keeps.”
“In me you are safe.”
“You are precious, my daughter.”
“I cannot love you any less or any more. I am love.”
Have you heard God’s whispers of love recently? Find a quiet place and quiet your mind. (Lots of noise between your pierced ears, right?!) Talk to the Lord, your very best friend.
“I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” John 15:15
How does God speak to you? Have you heard His voice lately?
P.S. If you still have trouble hearing His whisper, please contact me and I’ll write you back with extra helps.
You Are Blessed!