First, let’s get real:
1. You are not alone.
2. There is hope.
Tragically, among the deepest crises is sexual abuse. It sickens the soul and messes with your mind, spirit, and body for years, even decades.
Do you want to get well?
Says biblical counselor and author David Powlison:
Your recovery will be a process of learning and remembering those two truths, not just once, but over and over.
Think about how bread gets made. It must be kneaded so that the yeast goes through the whole loaf. These two truths must be kneaded into who you are until they work through every part of you. The working of these truths into the deepest part of you takes time.
The damage you suffered may have been done in one or more terrible moments; the healing and the restoration unfolds at a human pace. It unfolds at your pace. It unfolds as part of your story, and it unfolds over time.”
Listen to a Hope Story
Lindy Abbott, a Christian blogger, wife, and mother suffered abuse as a young child so severe that she developed PTSD.
Here’s a podcast of my chat with her: click here.
While folks often associate PTSD with soldiers returning from combat, it can occur after a traumatic event where you feared for your safety, even your life. According to the Sidran Institute, among people who experienced specific traumas (rape, child abuse, violent assaults, etc.), the rate of PTSD is 60 to 80 percent. These women feel isolated, guilty, trapped, and confused. They suffer from many symptoms such as depression, addictions, self-abuse, and suicidal thoughts.
Sometimes an abuse victim, especially a child, uses a coping skill called dissociation to survive ongoing trauma. It protects her from awareness of the pain in the short run, but a person who dissociates often may find in the long run she has relationship difficulties and inability to function. Some women like multiple personalities.
As Lindy writes at her blog Abuse and Trauma Hope,
It is at this precise moment [of abuse] that the child unconsciously begins to protect the soul from utter destruction by separating the harmful/abusive experiences into hidden places in the soul. The mind does this without needing the child to actively think about what she needs to do to survive, it as an unconscious act of self-preservation.”
Sweet friends, whether you or a loved one suffered abuse or endured another trauma, this podcast will bless you. God heals in his timing, and his timing is always right.
Do you want to talk with someone confidentially about your pain?
As you probably know I am a biblical counselor. I counsel women abused sexually as children. Fallout from this horrible offense pops up in their adult years: nightmares, flash backs, difficulty with intimacy in marriage, loneliness, anxiety attacks, and more.
God wants to heal you. Why? He loves loves loves you!
Hope for you!