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Mama Needs a Time Out

I asked a few hundred women in a Facebook group this Q: What is your top mama need?

Three kept popping up:  A support system of family and friends, time alone, and encouragement.

Psst: If yours isn’t listed, please send me a contact message and I’ll address yours in a blog post or give you an answer by email.  :-)

Also please leave a comment! Comments give encouragement to me and others. :-)

Scroll to the very, very, very bottom of this post and type your comment. Thanks!  

Today let’s look at the whys and the hows of taking a timeout. Ready? I am. . .’cause this mama needs a break!

What a Time Out Is NOT

When a mama takes a time out, she is not beating herself up.

I need to do more. I’m a bad mom. The laundry’s flowing over baskets. Err, this counter is sticky, this floor is stick, I’m sticky. I suck.

In your time out you do NOT start planning. Hey, if I’m taking a time out, I might as well get busy planning my day, my week, my month, my life. NO! Do NOT go here.

You do NOT rehearse “what if’s.” What if I were thinner or toner or smarter or organized?

 Do you beat yourself up sometimes, thinking you should do more or do different? Isn’t this a recipe for anxiety? 

What a Time Out Is!

A time out is a time to rest. Sure, take a nap if you need one. But here I am focusing on resting the mind, bathing the Spirit in Jesus’ invitation. You know it, don’t you?

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. Matthew 11:28-29

These are power words, this time out invitation. Disconnecting with worry and busyiness. Connect with the One who loves you best. Amen.

Among the women I counsel biblically, I register not only a lack of soul rest but also iffy self care. Easy to remedy self care. Here are the three most important:

1. Drink water, about 6 to 8 8-ounces a day. Water has many healing properties. I’ll write a post soon on the spiritual and emotional healing properties of water. Incidentally, soda pop is not water.

2. Get enough sleep, about 7 to 10 hours daily. Set a time to get ready for bed and a time to wake up. Again, there are spiritual and emotional health benefits to sleep.

3. Move. You don’t have to join a gym or sign up for Zumba. Just move. Walks are perfect. Stretch. Breath deep from the belly.

What’s Next

When you read a post suggesting change, you make feel overwhelmed. Change is hard. You may feel defeated or think, “I tried that before and I quit after three days, so why bother?”

Why bother?

Take a time out to refresh and regroup because you matter, you are valuable, you are significant. Your children (toddlers or married adults) are watching how you take care of yourself and spend your time. God rested, didn’t he?

Take a time out and rest in Jesus. Go to him. He’s waiting. Find rest for your soul.

Coming up in the “Mama Needs a Break” series: Your Next Big Thing!

photo credit: Myxi via photopin cc

Blessings and Hope!

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So Are You a Winner?

Crazy, book-loving me. I ran three back-to-back book giveaways in mid April.

Many entries–thank you thank you thank you–and five winners.

In a sec, I’ll announce the book giveaway winners. First. . .

A Redefinition

Lots of folks on Facebook and Twitter and People magazine and “The Voice” (and, sadly, too many in the church)–they define winning as a boatload of connections, and “likes,” and prestige and power and pretty-ful.

But God, oh God, you redefine winning. Winning is belief. Do you have belief in Jesus?

Then you are a winner. Do you know this, sweet warrior?

Rahab the Harlot

A prostitute in Jericho hid spies under flax on rooftop. Brave, this woman, this harlot. Brave, this believer in the one true God. A scarlet cord danging from her window saved her life when the Jericho walls fell in.

Do you think God can love sex-tainted women? Or women with a past, whatever the past? Abortion. Addiction. Adultery.

Don’t you know God is bigger than your sin, than you and the mistakes you’ve made?

The Rejected Samaritan Woman

Many times married and living with a guy, this woman was an outcast among outcasts. Fetching water midday, scorching sun high, she met Jesus at Jacob’s well and became an evangelist. This Jesus, he spoke truth, he showed compassion, and she was changed. A new creation, embraced by God Most High. She told the townsfolk who had shunned her.

Do you know the sting of rejection, of abandonment? I know you do. Remember middle school? The insecurity?

I do.

Thank God I grew past that pain. I now know who I really am in Christ: accepted, forgiven, blessed, God’s child. Amen.

You Win!

When you, sweet sister in Christ, know your true identity, you win. . .peace now. . .contentment now. Sure, you still make bad choices and bad thing will upend you. Whose immune? Yet you know you can step toward our God loves you. . .

more than wildflowers

and sparrows

even angels

because He Is Love. 

And the Oscar Books Go Too. . .

As I said up top, I went crazy and had three book giveaways. The recipients were selected randomly and old-fashioned; Slips of paper with scribbled names, folded and piled, eyes closed, fingers finding.

Kc Hutter, author of A Broken Heart, offered three hard-covered copies. These were nabbed by Tamara, Karen, and Elaine.

Steve Reed, author of Transformed by Tough Times, provided a book that went to Kc. (She was the only entry in this particular giveaway. Hint, hint: Leave a comment next time, sweet friends, and you may win.)

A biblical counselor’s dream book, Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling by James MacDonald, Bob Kellemen, and Steve Viars landed in Melinda’s mailbox.

Next: My Mom’s Hope series. First post in this series is Thursday. Join us.

Blessings and Hope!

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GIVEAWAY! A Book to Help You Help Others

Want to change lives? Do you have a heart to help the hurting? Then this book is for you!

What’s also amazing, I have the honor of giving Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling: Changing Lives with Gods Changeless Truth to one my readers. Published by Harvest House, this hard-cover treasure helps you lead struggling folks to the hope and strength available only is Christ. I highly recommend it to biblical counselors, Christian counselors, and women (and men) who help the hurting.

Yes, another. . .

Book Giveaway!

bookstackTo enter the giveaway for this book, leave a sentence or two in comments, saying why you want it. Also I kindly request that you: 1) subscribe to this blog (if you haven’t already) and 2) sign up for my Cup of Joy e-newsletter.

I’ll select a winner later this week and announce the name on Friday.

Isn’t it awesome that pastors James MacDonald, Bob Kellemen, and Steve Viars, along with 37 additional biblical counseling leaders, collaborated to write Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling: Changing Lives with Gods Changeless Truth?

They wrote it to to equip God’s people to understand how to speak the truth in love, and to increase people’s confidence in the richness and relevancy of God’s Word to address real-life issues.

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Interview with Bob Kellemen

Bob, thanks for joining us. Please tell my readers what Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling all about?

BK: “The purpose of Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling is to equip God’s people to understand how to change lives with Christ’s changeless truth. The goal of the book is to increase people’s confidence in the richness and relevancy of God’s Word to address real-life issues. Just as there is currently an encouraging return to gospel-centered preaching, Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling seeks to be a catalyst for the return of God’s people to gospel-centered one-another ministry.”

The roster of authors is quite remarkable. How did you go about selecting the chapter authors?

BK: “You’re right; we are thrilled with the forty men and women who contributed to the book. We were looking for leaders in biblical counseling who had solid theological backgrounds combined with years of practical experience in ministering God’s Word to hurting people.”

Who are these readers you envision benefiting from Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling?

BK: “Picture a committed Christian sitting at Starbucks with her best friend and fellow church member. Her friend has finally opened up to her about the fear and anxiety she experiences daily. We’ve written Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling to help this committed Christian and thousands like her to know how to lovingly and carefully relate God’s Word to struggles like fear and worry.

Picture a pastor in his office with a couple who have already seen the divorce attorney. The pastor is secretly thinking, ‘They taught me how to preach in seminary, but not how to help a struggling couple to change.’ We’ve written Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling for this pastor and thousands like him.

Picture a Bible college or seminary student in his only course in pastoral counseling. He’s  thinking, ‘I’m confident in God’s Word, but how do I grow in my competence in using God’s Word?’ We’ve written Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling to help this student and thousands more to understand a biblical theology and methodology for helping hurting people to find hope and victory in Christ.

Picture the Christian counselor who loves the Lord and His Word, but wants to know how to use God’s Word confidently and competently in counseling rather than relying on psychological resources. We’ve written Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling to help this counselor and thousands of others to appreciate the richness and robustness of the Scriptures and to learn how to use God’s Word relevantly, relationally, and powerfully in counseling.”

So, when the committed Christian, the pastor, the student, or the counselor picks up Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling, what do they find?

BK: “We chose each chapter author according to his or her specialty and we asked the authors to picture the committed Christian, the pastor, the student, and the counselor during the writing process. They then focused their chapter on applying truth to life by blending theological wisdom and practical expertise.

For example, John Piper and Jack Delk write about the goal of counseling—which is the glory of God. This foundational purpose provides a fundamental mindset shift for anyone offering one-another ministry. Ernie Baker and Jonathan Holmes explore the power of the Redeemer—helping readers to understand that change is not through a program or a philosophy but through a person, the Person—Jesus Christ. Jeff Forrey examines a biblical understanding and treatment of emotions, while Laura Hendricksen probes the complex mind/body connection and its impact on counseling and Christian living.”

As you think about this book on counseling compared to other books, what will readers receive that is unique?

BK: “First, there are many excellent books available on biblical counseling. In fact, the Biblical Counseling Coalition loves highlighting those book at our Book Review site. That said, we’re seeking to address some unique goals through Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling. We want readers to:

  • Receive a robust, loving, best-practice guide not only for why our authors love biblical counseling, but why the reader should embrace biblical counseling.
  • Be encouraged to trust God’s Word to provide rich insight for living in the midst of even the most difficult times of suffering and relational conflict and the most distressing battles against besetting sins.

We designed the book to:

  • Refute the stereotype that biblical counseling is harsh (unloving) and simplistic (unrealistic in the real world). We pray that it will become the remedy to the insufficient ‘take-two-verses-and-call-me-in-the-morning’ method and the antidote to a ‘one-verse-one-problem-one-solution’ approach to people helping.
  • Challenge the teaching that we need Christ plus something else, that the Bible is an insufficient guide to effective relational living and to encourage readers to use God’s Word in their church and para-church ministries as people helpers.”

What are others saying about Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling?

BK: “We’ve been encourage by the endorsements by a wide cross-section of leaders. For example, Nancy Leigh DeMoss shares: ‘Those of us who are seeking to help needy, hurting people find hope in Christ, owe a great debt of gratitude to those who contributed to this rich resource. It will make us more biblically grounded in our counsel and inspire us to believe that He really can transform lives!’

And Pastor Matt Chandler has this to say about the book: ‘Christ-centered Biblical Counseling is a much needed resource that will set a frame of reference for your existing biblical counseling ministry or deepen a paradigm that might already exist in your church. It is vital that the church take seriously the call to disciple their own through Christ-centered counsel.’”

Bob, how can readers learn more about the book?

BK: “At the Biblical Counseling Coalition we’ve created a Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling tab here . To order, readers can visit the BCC Bookstore.”

About the Biblical Counseling Coalition

The Biblical Counseling Coalition exists to strengthen churches, para-church organizations, and educational institutions by promoting excellence and unity in biblical counseling as a means to accomplish compassionate outreach and effective discipleship.

Its mission is to foster collaborative relationships and to provide robust, relevant biblical resources that equip the Body of Christ to change lives with Christ’s changeless truth. BCC pursues this purpose by organizing our thinking around one central question: “What does it mean to counsel in the grace and truth of Christ?”

 All that we do flows from our calling to equip people to love God and others in Christ-centered ways.

BCC’s passion: Promote Personal Change Centered on the Person of Christ Through the Personal Ministry of the Word.

Blessings and Hope!

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Transformed by Tough Times

footprint-transformed-tough-timesAre you struggling and wondering, “Where’s God?”

Steve Reed, author of Transformed by Tough Times and an cross-cultural missionary, shares compelling stories and insights in his new book to help readers be transformed not just in spite of, but actually because of our tough times. He calls this answer the “suffering clause” of Christianity: “These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world” John 16:33.

From his football playing days under legendary head coach Jimmy Johnson, to his hiking treks in the jungles of Guatemala, Reed has a passion for helping men and women go through hard times.

Book Giveaway!

Want your own signed copy of Transformed by Tough Times? Enter the giveaway!  To enter the giveaway, comment and connect.

1. Comment! Simply leave a comment on

  • this blog post below.

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An Author Interview

A book about tough times usually implies that the author has had some personal experiences that connect to that topic. Where did the book start for you? 

In college, I was a kicker and punter at Oklahoma State University under a demanding head coach, Jimmy Johnson. (Football fans might recognize him as the coach for two college national championships in the 80’s and a couple of Super Bowls in the 90’s for the Dallas Cowboys.) Just playing for Coach Johnson was tough enough, but my sophomore year, I got my knee bent backwards in a Junior Varsity game in Lincoln, Nebraska. When surgery and rehab efforts didn’t get me back to playing football, I eventually had to hang up the cleats. Looking back now, that experience made me more aware of how other people dealt with adversity and caused me to pay more attention to how I could respond when faced with tough times.

Your book transitions pretty quickly from your football days to life as a church planter and how that actually prompted you to write this book. How did that all happen? 

When football didn’t work out, I found myself drawn to ministry in a great church near the OSU campus. Charlie Baker, the pastor of that church, invited me and other college students to partner with him in creating a weekly worship service for students. In doing that ministry I fell in love with the church and decided to go to seminary and be a pastor myself. After getting married and going through seminary training, we eventually moved to Kansas City to start churches. For nearly 20 years we were involved in the roller coaster rides of starting five different churches in our region. Most days, I absolutely loved it. But in one of those church starts we had a train wreck that knocked me for a loop and out of a church that I loved perhaps more than I loved my wife and family.

So after that you went on an even deeper quest for figuring out what was happening to you?  

Right. With a new intensity I began to systematically search the scriptures to find some help for my pain. And I collected information and stories from others wiser than me and from many who had suffered greatly and come through with amazing faith and character.

You write about a day in Costa Rica that changed your life. What happened?  

After the break up from the church, I wound up going to Costa Rica on a mission trip with my parents. My parents, by the way, were missionaries when I was a kid and 30 years prior we had actually lived in Costa Rica. For me, going back was a fun, blast to the past. But more than that, the people there were cathartic for me. I was an emotional mess much of the time. And one day I must have cried with three or four people who needed to know Christ, but who were in pain. God used my pain and my weeping with others to both minister to them and to me. That day I discovered something about God’s ministry of tears and how sometimes He does more through our weaknesses and frailties than He does with our strengths.

Where can people find your book?

For now it’s only available from the trunk of my car! Or, more conveniently, it can be ordered from the website www.TransformedbyToughTimes.com. It will be on Amazon soon. The Kindle version is already available.

Please note: I  was given a complimentary copy of this book from the author in exchange for posting the author’s interview and/or book review on this blog. CSS Virtual Book Tours are managed by Christian Speakers Services (http://ChristianSpeakersServices.com).
About Steve Reed

Steve Reed is the Chief Encouragement Officer and Cross Cultural Catalyst for Daybreak International, a missions organization he founded that is dedicated to planting churches for the marginalized and forgotten peoples of the world. Currently, his two major projects focus on cowboys in Central America, and Kekchi Indians in the jungles of Guatemala. Those who know Steve best speak of his relentless encouragement and undying loyalty to people who face tough times. When not traveling in Central America, Steve comes home to Kansas City. He is married to Nola, and they have three young adult sons, a beloved daughter-in-law, and a grand baby on the way.

Blessings and Hope! 

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3 BOOK GIVEAWAY: Mending a Broken Heart

Today is the big, book giveaway! You can win one of three signed, hardcover copies of A Broken Heart  by Kc Christman Hutter. Delivered to your doorstep. Fun, easy, cool.

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Great question. Easy answer. To enter the giveaway:

1. Connect!

  • Subscribe to this blog by email or RSS feed, if you haven’t already. The sign-up box is at the top. (Easy unsubscribe.)
  • Sign up for my Cup of  Joy e-newsletter, and get a complimentary download of one of my readers’ favorite e-books. The sign-up box is on the upper right of my website. (Easy unsubscribe.)

 2. Comment!

  • Leave on comment on this blog post below. Click on “Comment” and type “I want A Broken Heart book!”
  • Also leave comments on the other blog posts in the “Mending a Broken Heart” series. To see them all, click the square water-and-lemon graphic at right. I also list them below for you to click and comment

3. Share!

  • After you comment, SHARE this post on Facebook and/or Twitter. Copy and share this with the link:  ”I want A Broken Heart book! #ABrokenHeart #LucyAnnMoll”

4. A Bonus: Free Counseling Webinar! Get the details on Friday. 

Quick links to the posts: 

Wholeness!

Healing from Addiction

Healing After the Death of a Child

Grieving When Someone Dies

Mending from Divorce

Grieving Divorce

Mending from Abandonment

The First Post

kc-hutter-cowgirlRemember: The more comments, the more entries you’ll have in the giveaway. To increase your chances, comment and share! The winners are selected randomly. All are welcome to enter.

The winners will be announced at www.LucyAnnMoll.com on Friday.

Blessings and Hope!

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