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Overcome Difficult Emotions? 1.0

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Do you want to overcome difficult emotions?

Who doesn’t?! Your difficult emotions – and your happy-joy-love-hope ones too – communicate important information to you. This is wonderful: As you grasp their meanings, you can begin to overcome difficult emotions.

Emotions Say Something Important

Emotions result from your thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes. Try to hear the thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes in this parable (a story told to make a greater point). I underline several key phrases.

And he (Jesus) told them a parable, saying, “The land of a rich man produced plentifully, and he thought to himself, ‘What shall I do, for I have nowhere to store my crops?’

And he said, ‘I will do this: I will tear down my barns and build larger ones, and there I will store all my grain and my goods. And I will say to my soul, “Soul, you have ample goods laid up for many years; relax, eat, drink, be merry.”’

But God said to him, ‘Fool! This night your soul is required of you, and the things you have prepared, whose will they be?’ So is the one who lays up treasure for himself and is not rich toward God.” (Luke 12:16-21, ESV)

As my friend and a biblical counselor likes to say:

“We feel what we feel because we think what we think and do what we do.”

In other words, your emotions have their origin in your thoughts and actions. In the parable, the rich man thought he’d have his crops a long time and told himself to relax, eat, drink, and be merry (actions). His thoughts and actions were based on the godless belief that pleasure is what matters, not God.

Anna’s Story Exposes Her Belief

Years ago I counseled a Christian woman I’ll call Anna. She and her husband met with my husband and me for marriage counseling several times. (Both had difficulties. Here I zero in Anna’s.)

Anna’s unstable upbringing and hush-hush sexual abuse by a family friend at age 13 influenced her thoughts and actions. She saw herself as a sex object and used sex to get want she wanted from high school boys:  the false love of naked embraces and murmured “I love you”s.”

People-pleasing and self-sufficiency describe two of her root heart issues. The heart (your inner person) is the focus of biblical counseling and transforming your life.

Above all else, guard your heart,
    for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23, NIV

 “But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.” Matthew 15:18-19. ESV 

Anna had a twisted image of God. To her God was weak and uncaring, even evil.

Her beliefs and actions led to the difficult emotions of anger and fear. (In my next post, I’ll tell more of Anna’s story.)

How to Respond to Difficult Emotions

To overcome difficult emotions, learn to think right and act right. Out of right (or godly) thinking comes right words and right actions. Out of right actions come right habits and life choices.

Believing the Word of God is crucial to right thinking. As you believe God and spend time reading and meditating on Bible verses, God renews your mind. Check out Romans 12:2.

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” 

God transforms your thinking and right actions follow.

  • You thank God for your home rather than complaining about the dirty carpet.
  • You pray more often because you want to draw near to God.
  • You replace the habit of playing Candy Crush with spending time with your kids.

As you take your eyes off your emotions and think rightly about God, guess what happens? You begin to experience inner contentment, joy, hope, and peace.

But It’s Not That Easy!

You’re right. Changing a habit is hard.

Developing the habit of godly thinking takes practice. But you can do it.

One practical tip:

Identify a difficult emotion you have. Ask God to reveal to you what ungodly thoughts contribute to creating the difficult emotion. Do you see the connection? Let’s talk more about changing habits next time.

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Blessings of HOPE!


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Your Heavenly Father Loves You. . .



. . .even when your dad hurts you.

May I introduce you to Karen Rabbitt? She wrote Trading Fathers: Forgiving Dad, Embracing God, a memoir of her journey from brokenness to wholeness. It reveals the sexual abuse she experienced at four years old at the hand of her father. The abuse, the mixed messages, messed with emotional security.

Has suffering brought you hurt and confusion?

Suffering is deeply personal. Quick fixes don’t last. They may compound the pain. Logical explanations may offend you. Bible verses fall flat. You need help with the emotional problem of hurt. You need someone to listen, not judge.

Do you know that the path to your heart comes through your mind?

Truth matters. God reveals truth about himself, you and me, the world, evil, suffering, and redemption in Scripture.

Karen found out truth matters the hard way.

Immediate Healing?

When Karen became a Christian as a young adult, she expected immediate healing. It didn’t happen. She felt hurt, again. She asked God, “Where were you when I was abused?” Have you asked God this question? 

Karen continued to experience shame, depression, and emotional instability. Only when she allowed God’s truth to penetrate her mind and soul could she find comfort, understanding, and a compassion to help other hurting women.

God challenged her to do the seemingly impossible: forgive her father.

Forgive the Abuser?

You may have a story of abuse too. Or you may have experienced a different hurt. Rejection? Abandonment? Never being good enough?

As Karen sorted out the differences between her heavenly and earthly fathers — and discovered that truth matter and the heart can heal — so can you.

God is good.

He is just.

And powerful.




Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Col. 3:13, NIV

Real Hope!

Do you know the true God? The heavenly Father who doesn’t just give advice. He gives himself! 

God tells us that trials and suffering have a purpose. When you hurt you try to make sense out the the suffering. This is normal. We want relief.

The only path to real relief for your real hurt is this:

Choose to align your worldview with God’s timeless truth: Scripture. As you believe Scripture and act on your belief — loving God with all your mind, all your heart, and all your soul — you will find peace and contentment. You will know real hope.

What’s Next?

Finish this sentence: Lord, I need to forgive _______ because ________. Got a sec? Leave a comment below. Thanks!

Here’s Hoping with You!



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