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You Are Chosen!


Did you miss the first post in the True Identity series? Read it now.

A new college freshman at a huge university, I feared . . . loneliness.

My solution: join a sorority and — ta-da — instant friends. But I had to go through rush, that dreaded week of scrutiny by the sororities. Will they love me or hate me?

Will I be chosen?

Have you desired acceptance badly too? What did you do to get it? Awesome news: God chooses you!  All who are in Christ have his acceptance.


During orientation, a sorority sister cautioned us hopefuls: “Please don‟t ‘suicide’ by listing only one sorority you like. If you list only one and the sorority doesn’t choose you, that’s it. You have no place to go but the dorms.”

So what did I do? I “died.”

The solitary sorority I chose didn’t choose me. Shut in my dorm room, I cried. A lot. I felt rejected and stupid, ugly and tossed out . . . like trash. Shoved into a can and rolled to the curb. Dumped in the landfill. Alone.

Do you remember a time you were not chosen or chosen last? How about a time you did make the team or get the part?

God Chose You

Praise be to God, he has chosen you. Yes, you. Let truth of your chosenness warm you from nose to toes.  No test to pass. No contest. No nothing. You can do nothing to become more chosen by God. Not more prayer. Or more bible study. Or good works. Or anything.  Listen.

God chose you, sweet sister in Christ, before the creation of the world. Think on this and let it transform your thinking.

Before you took your first baby step, before you were conceived, before God fashioned the heavens and the earth, he chose you.

He chose you for a purpose: to be holy and blameless in his sight. If you’re like me, you may think, “Me? Holy and blameless?” Yes! Holiness is fundamental to God’s character.

You shall be holy, for I am holy.” 1 Peter 1:16, NIV

How do you become holy? The Holy Spirit empowers you to want to please God. More and more, the fruit of the Spirit — love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control — adorns you.

Forever Chosen

The moment you believed on Jesus as your Savior, your old self died. You became a new creation. You are in Christ and Christ is in you.

This “in” means you have a place as a member of Christ‟s body, vitally united with him. The death, resurrection and ascension of Jesus — yes, the heart of the gospel — made possible your true identity. God now sees you as blameless because his Son is blameless, having paid the ultimate price to conquer sin and death.

Being “in Christ” is the true you.

This is why God chose you. Does knowing you are chosen change the way you think and feel about yourself? about God?

Embrace your true identity: chosen.

Are you having trouble accepting this beautiful truth about your true identity in Christ? Then please poke around my website for more biblical hope and practical help. Here’s a place to start. 

Watch for my next post of practical help. It helps you embrace the truth that you are chosen by God.

In Jesus’ HOPE!



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Overcome Difficult Emotions? 1.0

overcoming difficult emotions

Do you want to overcome difficult emotions?

Who doesn’t?! Your difficult emotions – and your happy-joy-love-hope ones too – communicate important information to you. This is wonderful: As you grasp their meanings, you can begin to overcome difficult emotions.

Emotions Say Something Important

Emotions result from your thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes. Try to hear the thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes in this parable (a story told to make a greater point). I underline several key phrases.

And he (Jesus) told them a parable, saying, “The land of a rich man produced plentifully, and he thought to himself, ‘What shall I do, for I have nowhere to store my crops?’

And he said, ‘I will do this: I will tear down my barns and build larger ones, and there I will store all my grain and my goods. And I will say to my soul, “Soul, you have ample goods laid up for many years; relax, eat, drink, be merry.”’

But God said to him, ‘Fool! This night your soul is required of you, and the things you have prepared, whose will they be?’ So is the one who lays up treasure for himself and is not rich toward God.” (Luke 12:16-21, ESV)

As my friend and a biblical counselor likes to say:

“We feel what we feel because we think what we think and do what we do.”

In other words, your emotions have their origin in your thoughts and actions. In the parable, the rich man thought he’d have his crops a long time and told himself to relax, eat, drink, and be merry (actions). His thoughts and actions were based on the godless belief that pleasure is what matters, not God.

Anna’s Story Exposes Her Belief

Years ago I counseled a Christian woman I’ll call Anna. She and her husband met with my husband and me for marriage counseling several times. (Both had difficulties. Here I zero in Anna’s.)

Anna’s unstable upbringing and hush-hush sexual abuse by a family friend at age 13 influenced her thoughts and actions. She saw herself as a sex object and used sex to get want she wanted from high school boys:  the false love of naked embraces and murmured “I love you”s.”

People-pleasing and self-sufficiency describe two of her root heart issues. The heart (your inner person) is the focus of biblical counseling and transforming your life.

Above all else, guard your heart,
    for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23, NIV

 “But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.” Matthew 15:18-19. ESV 

Anna had a twisted image of God. To her God was weak and uncaring, even evil.

Her beliefs and actions led to the difficult emotions of anger and fear. (In my next post, I’ll tell more of Anna’s story.)

How to Respond to Difficult Emotions

To overcome difficult emotions, learn to think right and act right. Out of right (or godly) thinking comes right words and right actions. Out of right actions come right habits and life choices.

Believing the Word of God is crucial to right thinking. As you believe God and spend time reading and meditating on Bible verses, God renews your mind. Check out Romans 12:2.

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” 

God transforms your thinking and right actions follow.

  • You thank God for your home rather than complaining about the dirty carpet.
  • You pray more often because you want to draw near to God.
  • You replace the habit of playing Candy Crush with spending time with your kids.

As you take your eyes off your emotions and think rightly about God, guess what happens? You begin to experience inner contentment, joy, hope, and peace.

But It’s Not That Easy!

You’re right. Changing a habit is hard.

Developing the habit of godly thinking takes practice. But you can do it.

One practical tip:

Identify a difficult emotion you have. Ask God to reveal to you what ungodly thoughts contribute to creating the difficult emotion. Do you see the connection? Let’s talk more about changing habits next time.

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Blessings of HOPE!


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