Have you said “yes” when “no” would have been the wise response? Click & Tweet!
3 Everyday Costs of Being Too Nice
Your physical health
Saying “yes” may shortchange self-care. Sleeplessness and overwork tax us. Neglecting self-care may also mean less physical exercise and more stress eating.
When you’re too nice and over-commit, in what ways has your health suffered? For me, I may skip my walks, and I love to walk because it not only gets my heart pumping but also sends me outside breathing fresh air.
Your emotions
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10, NIV
Your familiy and friendships
When you’re too nice, you may hurt people you care about most. Click & Tweet!
Before You Say Yes
Endless things and people demand our attention everyday. Untold numbers asked Jesus asked Jesus to do what they wanted, but He prioritized his “yes,” doing only what his Father wanted him to do.
I glorified you on earth, having accomplished the work that you gave me to do. John 17:4, ESV
- Say “let me think about it.” This will give you time to think through whether a “yes” is being too nice or if you sense God wants you to help.
- Count the cost. When you say “yes” to one thing, you’re saying “no” to something else. This something else could be needed sleep or time with family or you-name-it.
- Check your heart motivation. I often remind counselees to dig deep and ask themselves what is motivating their decisions. From our motivations and beliefs flow our thoughts, emotions, and actions.
What would you add to the list? What has worked for you?
May I Pray for You?
Lord, when faced with choices and fearing others’ opinions, we’re tempted to say “yes” when you may want us to say “no.” Give us the wisdom to know when we’re acting out of love and when we’re acting from fear. We want to please you above all. Thank you for giving us your hope and your promises. Amen.
“And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” Philippians 1:6, ESV
Counseling Hearts to Hope,
Thank you Lucy for your uplifting info on ‘niceness, which has always been an emotional place for me and my Friends.
Yes, Sharon, you are among the nicest Christian woman I know. Thank you for taking the time to read the article and to comment. I appreciate you!