Fear. It’s THE four-letter word.
It began long, long before 9/11. You know that. I know that.
We women shrink amongst “boogey men.” The worst?
The fear of rejection. It hollows the core of how God made us: to be relational. You know, Girls Night Out. . .babies. . .chick flicks.
The seeds of the fear of rejection usually begin in childhood. For me, I felt rejected by my dad. He didn’t do anything horrible to me. He just didn’t notice me, really. And he never smiled.
I wanted to make him happy. I longed for his acceptance. A hug. Anything.
My solution: to try to control him by being the perfect little girl who never got in trouble and brought home excellent report cards and who did everything right.
I didn’t.
I couldn’t.
I felt sad.
Only much later did I learn my dad suffered clinical depression.
Still, my fear of rejection lingered.
My most difficult years: junior high. I was the new kid in sixth grade, seventh grade, and eighth grade. By eighth grade I stopped trying to make friends. In the school yearbook the “prediction” the kids gave me was “astronaut.” Sounds good, right? Like they thought I was going places, that I was smart.
Ha!
They knew and I knew it was code for “Lucy is spacey.” That’s what the mean girls had called me.
I no longer reject myself. A God thing! Believe me, I had self-hatred. . . and I was a Christian. Do you understand? I hope you don’t. . .God wants you whole. Me, too.
Now this crazy economy is messy up our sense of security. More reason to fear?
God wants you to experience success, according to his definitition (growth in Christ) and not the world’s (money, money, money).
He never rejects you. Not ever.
Even when the economy stinks.
Among my solutions: Start another home-based business.
Yep, Lucy the biblical counselor/speaker/writer is now selling Jordan Essentials body, bath and spa products. I never figured I’d do direct sales. God led me here. So here I am.
It makes me about $100 exta bucks a month. Not much, I know. But it fits my schedule and every little bit helps.
The best part: It costs only $25 to get started and every consultant gets her own professional website and promotional tools. This is my Jordan Essentials website. If you want more info just send me a message.
The big point: Don’t sweat rejection because people will reject you and rejection hurts.
God understands. His Son faced ultimate rejection.
But God is bigger.
Like an ocean to a raindrop.
I can relate to all you said here. I wish I couldn’t. I too have been healed by God. He doesn’t reject me. I do find that I still struggle off and on, and I need reminders of truth. Thank you for being that for me! Cheri