Loneliness touches every woman some of the time. Do you feel lonely now? Do you know someone who does? Here are five godly solutions to loneliness.
Loneliness has run amok in our super-connected Facebook-y, Instagram-my, Twitter-ed world, don’t you agree? Relationships have suffered. Jealousy flourishes. Even happy events like the wedding of a son or daughter may usher in a melancholy of loneliness.
Have you experienced an upheavel like a move? or lost employment? or a health issue? These can bring on loneliness. Destructive emotions can spiral into loneliness too.
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. Proverbs 17:17, ESV
Here are 5 practical, godly solutions to loneliness.
1. Do not give in to self-pity.
At first self-pitying thoughts may seem comforting. You may feel a right to your indignation. But it is a false comfort since you are holding anger inside. And these creates more loneliness.
2. Believe what God says about you.
3. Draw close to the Lord.
How do you draw close to Jesus? Here are some ways: Read Scripture and think on it. Asking God for biblical wisdom and apply it to your life. Listen to praise music. Join a women’s bible study.
4. Get a physical exam.
What does seeing a medical doctor have to do with loneliness? Maybe nothing, maybe a lot. If you have a physical condition that zaps your energy, then getting care may help make friendships easier.
One of my adult daughters, for instance, had undiagnosed hypothyroidism. The doctor ordered a blood test that revealed the core physical problem. Once she began medication, she felt physically better and reengaged with friends and coworkers.
5. Take a risk: Show love to others.
I remember when our family moved to a new town where I knew no one. My thought: “Find friends at my new church!” And for a month or so the church ladies talked to me, then nada. Barley a peep! Feeling lonely and deserted, I prayed, “Lord, make the church ladies show me hospitality and friendship.”
Amazing to me, as I reached out to the women, I connected. Did all my loneliness flutter away? Not at all. But I felt better and, more important, I was doing what God directed.
Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. 1 Peter 4:9
What interferes with your connections with friends and family? What’s one thing that would foster connection?
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