5 solutions to loneliness

Loneliness touches every woman — at least sometimes. Read these five solutions to loneliness.

Every woman feels lonely. Some feel lonely daily, others once in a while.

Some single women feel lonely in their singleness, and married women in their marriages. Being transplanted from one part of the country to another brings on lonely feelings, as do broken friendships. Even happy events like the wedding of a son or daughter — and all the changes it brings — can usher in a melancholy of loneliness. Other women feel lonely in their shame, their fear, or their anger.

Here are 5 practical solutions to loneliness.

  1. Do not give in to self-pity. Self-pity is a perfectly natural emotion but it cripples. At first self-pitying thoughts are comforting. It is a false comfort, creating more loneliness.
  2. Believe what God says about you. Don’t listen to the lies the world tells you. Don’t listen to the lies you tell yourself. Believing lies leads to greater loneliness.
  3. Draw close to the Lord. Among the many ways to draw near to Jesus: Listen to praise music; read Scripture and think on it, asking God for wisdom in applying it to your life; pray; belong to a Christian fellowship.
  4. Get a physical exam by a medical doctor. What does this have to do with loneliness? Maybe nothing, maybe a lot. If you have a physical condition that zaps your energy, then getting care may make friendships easier.
  5. Take a risk and show love to others. I remember when our family moved to a new town and I desperately wanted to make friends in my new church. For a month or so the church ladies talked to me, then nothing. Feeling lonely and deserted, I prayed, “Lord, make the church ladies show me hospitality and friendship.”
    Amazing to me, as I reached out to the women, I felt more connected. I cannot say that all the loneliness fluttered away. But I felt better and, more important, I was doing what God directed. A woman on a stamp-out-loneliness mission!I’d love to hear from you. What has helped you feel less lonely? How has God spoken to your heart? Would you share a practical solution? Thanks so much.

With Joy Overflowing!


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About Lucy

Lucy Ann Moll counsels hope to the heart. A certified biblical counselor and seminary graduate in Pastoral Care, she counsels women, couples, and families in person and by Skype. Lucy also speaks to groups, blogs, and writes books as well as practical resources. She and her family (and a frisky feline named Polly) make their home in in northern Illinois on the edge of a cornfield.


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3 Responses to 5 solutions to loneliness

  1. Gayla Grace May 9, 2012 at 7:35 pm #

    We moved out of state last summer, leaving 3 kids behind in college, and I have battled loneliness for a year. Some days have been extremely hard for me and I questioned God repeatedly about WHY we had to move. But I finally accepted our circumstances and have gained greater peace through acceptance, trusting God’s plan for us, instead of arguing and questioning Him. I continue to pray for a lady friend who I can bond with and connect with, but I haven’t found that friendship yet. I have used running to help me cope with my fluctuating emotions and stay on top of my loneliness.
    Thank you for your post. I have struggled with self-pity and self-lies and continue to ask God to show me the truth.

  2. Lucy May 10, 2012 at 9:32 am #

    Gayla, I am glad to know you have peace. Moving is tough, leaving behind friends and, in your case, college kids. Keep praying for God to introduce you to a new friend. Years ago, when my husband and I moved an hour from our old home and I had two young ones at home, I found new friends at church.

    I pray God connects you with someone dear. Please try to be patient as you wait.


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