Every woman feels lonely. Some feel lonely daily, others once in a while.
Some single women feel lonely in their singleness, and married women in their marriages. Being transplanted from one part of the country to another brings on lonely feelings, as do broken friendships. Even happy events like the wedding of a son or daughter — and all the changes it brings — can usher in a melancholy of loneliness. Other women feel lonely in their shame, their fear, or their anger.
Here are 5 practical solutions to loneliness.
- Do not give in to self-pity. Self-pity is a perfectly natural emotion but it cripples. At first self-pitying thoughts are comforting. It is a false comfort, creating more loneliness.
- Believe what God says about you. Don’t listen to the lies the world tells you. Don’t listen to the lies you tell yourself. Believing lies leads to greater loneliness.
- Draw close to the Lord. Among the many ways to draw near to Jesus: Listen to praise music; read Scripture and think on it, asking God for wisdom in applying it to your life; pray; belong to a Christian fellowship.
- Get a physical exam by a medical doctor. What does this have to do with loneliness? Maybe nothing, maybe a lot. If you have a physical condition that zaps your energy, then getting care may make friendships easier.
- Take a risk and show love to others. I remember when our family moved to a new town and I desperately wanted to make friends in my new church. For a month or so the church ladies talked to me, then nothing. Feeling lonely and deserted, I prayed, “Lord, make the church ladies show me hospitality and friendship.”
Amazing to me, as I reached out to the women, I felt more connected. I cannot say that all the loneliness fluttered away. But I felt better and, more important, I was doing what God directed. A woman on a stamp-out-loneliness mission!I’d love to hear from you. What has helped you feel less lonely? How has God spoken to your heart? Would you share a practical solution? Thanks so much.
With Joy Overflowing!